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Lions Roar : November 2013
Taking action toward the good is the best way to expand our attention and dissolve the boundary of us-versus-them. Even simple things like working in a soup kitchen and helping feed the hungry, or having thoughtful conversations with the peo- ple next door, can ease feelings of separation from those who are unlike us on the surface. By aligning ourselves with issues larger than our own self- ish concerns—“turning off the Me and turning on the We,” as Jonathan Haidt puts it—we transcend alienation through simple human contact. In the spirit of “Love thy neighbor as thyself,” more and more people start to seem like our neigh- bors, and we learn in real terms how to love them. Working with the Outer Enemy ROBERT THURMAN Once we divide the world into us and them, self and other, “other” is filled with potential enemies. Even others we love right now may turn into enemies later on. All they have to do is harm or displease us in some way, and immediately we will fear and dislike them. How we deal with our enemies, then, is to see them as hu- man beings and to see ourselves from their perspective, being conscious of our own prejudices and preoccupations and real- izing that our enemies are operating out of their own preju- dices and preoccupations. “Working with the Outer Enemy,” the exercise that follows, will show you how you create outer enemies and how to reverse that process. When it comes down to it, the outer enemy is a distraction. Focusing on someone who seems to have it in for us allows us to ignore the real enemy, the enemy within. But when we can see the enemy’s hatred as a challenge, it becomes a spur to our own growth, a gift to wake us from our complacency. Think of someone you don’t like, someone you feel real antipathy toward. It may be someone you find frightening, someone you find challenging, someone you see as a rival, someone who has harmed you in some way. Bring the person clearly to mind and visualize them sitting before you. Really get in touch with your feelings toward that person. Feel the anger or fear or distaste as it arises in you. Now put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Imagine be- ing that person, sitting there looking at you. See yourself from your enemy’s perspective. Realize that your enemy is mirror- ing your feelings toward them. Just as you see your enemy, your enemy sees you the same way. Perhaps you are jealous of them, if they seem to be one-up and looking down at you. Or you may feel superior and therefore have a condescending attitude toward the enemy. Look at yourself through eyes of jealousy, envy, competitiveness, and condescension. When you have thoroughly immersed yourself in the nega- tive feelings you have for your enemy and your enemy has for you, realize that you don’t have to harbor those feelings. You can see your enemy in a different way. Try to imagine how their loved ones see them, how their child sees them, or their pet dog. If your enemy seems particularly bad, imagine how their partner in crime sees them—as an ally, a co-conspirator, a friend. And then note how stressed your enemy feels on see- ing or thinking of you. It is the same stress that you feel when you see or think of your enemy. As you look at yourself through this other person’s eyes, note the tone of voice you are using in your mind. Be aware of how your condescension, competitiveness, contempt, or jealousy is conveyed in the little things you do and say. Your emotions emerge in your voice and speech and gestures and body language, just as your enemy’s emotions are written all over their face and behavior. Now try to see something beautiful in your enemy. Imagine that person being really happy at having fallen in love or won an election or won the lottery. (If you’re really daring, imagine your enemy winning the battle with you. That should make SHAMBHALA SUN NOVEMBER 2013 40