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Lions Roar : November 2008
SHAMBHALA SUN NOVEMBER 2008 44 aggravated, because he still hasn’t figured it out. So I decide I’m not going to cook that special dish the other person likes! But perhaps at some point I see that the mind is hatching re- venge. It may take me a little while to catch on to this fact, but if I am paying attention, I eventually see the truth of this moment. The truth is, I’m plotting revenge. That’s unwise, unskillful ac- tion, because it’s compounding my distress. I didn’t feel good to begin with and now I have the added difficulty of a vengeful mind, which hurts even more. If I allow myself to, I can see that he actually loves me and simply said a ridiculous thing because he wasn’t paying attention. All of that other stuff is just editorial chatter I’ve saved up as proof that he doesn’t love me. I’ve manu- factured a fable and then frightened myself with it. The ninth branch of the eightfold path is relationship, and its path is metta, loving-kindness practice. Loving-kindness is really mindfulness, telling the truth about what’s really go- ing on. One way we can practice it is to say on the in-breath, “May I meet this moment fully,” and on the out-breath, “May I meet it as a friend.” Try that, and see how it feels. When we meet the moment fully, in relationship, as a friend, we com- bine mindfulness and loving-kindness. We stop plotting our fable, our story about who did what to whom. Buddhism is very optimistic about the human capacity for love, about the potential of what we can do with love. We can develop a love that is steadfast and universal. We develop it not because we force ourselves to love so fully. Rather, we discover that loving unconditionally is the greatest source of joy, and that we are the loser for any hesitation or interruption in that love, such as “I would really love you if you would just do your share of the cooking, if you would just do this, if you would just do that.” Whenever we hesitate like that, we lose. Buddhism tells us that in spite of all the circumstances we face, we could have a steadfast love for all beings. For most peo- ple who come to study dharma, this kind of love begins to feel right to them. It seems right to them when they realize that this world only becomes problematic when we hesitate to love. There’s a phrase that I’m very fond of that comes from the late Nyanaponika Thera, a wonderful German-born mind- fulness teacher who went to Sri Lanka and was ordained as a monk. Thera spoke of a “love that embraces all human beings, knowing well that we are all wayfarers through this round of ex- istence and that we all experience the same laws of suffering.” This is such a moving phrase, because if I can see that the per- son who has irritated me has, like me, very simple wants, then I can NOV 40-47.indd 44 NOV 40-47.indd 44 9/1/08 12:19:35 PM 9/1/08 12:19:35 PM