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Lions Roar : November 2016
ADVICE FOR DIFFICULT TIMES The Long Goodbye of Alzheimer’s She’s no longer the grandmother you remember. MARGARET MANTEAU–RAO on how to love and accept your loved one as she is now. Question: What does Buddhism offer me about relating to my grandmother who has Alzheimer’s and is no longer the person I once knew? Answer: Buddhist practice gives you a place to acknowledge and hold your grief. The ambiguity of the slow, invis- ible loss associated with the changes in your grandmother begs to be made real. Unconscious grief will weigh you down otherwise and can become a significant source of chronic stress. This is where mindfulness practice comes in, allowing you to become aware of the emotions, thoughts, and behaviors that are bound to arise at random moments and in unexpected ways. Dharma also invites you to bring your mindful attention to the clinging that is always part of grief. You may learn to tease the two apart by temporarily setting aside the object of your grief— your grandmother as you used to know her—and focusing instead on the ache that tugs at your heart. If you spend enough time sitting with it, you will get to the root cause of your suffering, which comes from wanting what can no longer be had. To help you, you may want to contemplate the Bud- dha’s fourth remembrance: “Everyone I love is of the nature to change. There is no way to escape being separated from them.” Eventually, you may step into a new way of being that makes room for a dif- ferent kind of love for your grandmother, unbound by identity, role, and history. This is the ultimate loving-kindness practice: opening your heart to loving whoever is with you, free from expecta- tions. Learn to see each moment with her as a new moment and a new chance to love her as she is. ♦ ©ALEXEYKUZMA/STOCKSYUNITED MARGARET MANTEAU–RAO is author of Caring For a Loved One With Dementia. Send your question to firstname.lastname@example.org Pema and the Pema Chödrön Foundation support: THE BUDDHIST MONASTIC TRADITION Pema is dedicated to help guide and support her home monastery, Gampo Abbey, in Cape Breton, Nova Scotia. NUNS IN THE HIMALAYAS The Pema Chödrön Foundation’s support helps ensure that nuns in Nepal, Bhutan and India have the same equal opportunities for deep practice and study as monks have always had. THE BOOK INITIATIVE Pema’s books and recorded teachings are offered to underserved individuals and the organizations that serve them, around the world, free of charge. pemachodronfoundation.org All proceeds from the PCF bookstore support Pema’s work. Free Shipping in the USA LION’S ROAR | NOVEMBER 2016 23