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Lions Roar : November 2017
AS THICH NHAT HANH SAYS, “No mud, no lotus.” And what could be mud- dier than our role as parents? When Buddhists vow to follow the precepts, we do this knowing that living them purely is near impossible. Rais- ing children is the same. We vow to be responsible for the needs of another human being and offer the best of our- selves to them, knowing full well we will be far from perfect as parents. HEART & MIND 10 Precepts for Parents JOHN BECVAR uses the Zen precepts as a guide for peaceful parenting that gives our childen love, trust, and self-confidence. JOHN DAIGAN BECVAR is the father of two young sons, Jack and Thomas, and is a grad- uate of Upaya Zen Center’s chaplaincy program. ©PERSWANTESSON/STOCKSYUNITED When I took the Zen precepts with my teacher, Roshi Joan Halifax, she told me they are an intention to be cultivated in our hearts. The practice is to return to this intention every time we fall short, which is continually. We can bring this same atti- tude of a peaceful, awakening heart to our interactions with our children. I have consulted with a number of Buddhist teachers and practitioners— most of them parents—to suggest a guide to peaceful parenting based on the ten precepts or vows taken in the Zen cer- emony called Jukai. It draws on the theory of attachment parenting, which promotes the development of a secure emotional bond between parents and their children. This secure attachment depends on the parents’ ability to fulfill their children’s need for trust, empathy, and affection by providing consistent, loving, and respon- sive care. Here are ten ways we can do that. 1. Affirm life; do not kill. With peaceful parenting we don’t mistreat our children, both physically and emotionally. We don’t lord our power over them and we don’t kill their dreams and spirit. We affirm their life and individuality through creating LION’S ROAR | NOVEMBER 2017 19 CULTURE • LIFE • PRACTICE